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Aptavani-4
How Harmful Is Dismissing with Contempt?
Questioner: What is the difference between scorn
(tiraskar) and tarchhod (dismissing with contempt)?
Dadashri: At times, one may not even be aware of scorn
(tiraskar). Scorn is a completely mild thing, whereas tarchhod
(dismissing with contempt) is fierce and it can instantly cause a
person to ‘bleed’. This bleeding is not of the physical body. It
is the mind that bleeds.
Questioner: What are the consequences of tarchhod
and tiraskar?
Dadashri: You may not even discern the consequence of
tiraskar, but that of tarchhod is huge. Tarchhod causes all
kinds of obstacles. So it will not allow you to attain things, and
it will create all sorts of misery. What can tarchhod not do? It
has given rise to the entire world. That is why I tell you one
thing, and that is, “Let go of your enmity and vengeance (veyr)
and beware that you are not contemptuous towards anyone”.
My chit is very attentive when it comes to tarchhod
(dismissing with contempt). If I have to walk home late at night,
I am very careful about not disturbing any sleeping dog, with the
noise of my shoes. Isn’t there a soul within them as well? I
would not even be scornful with the person who lovingly gave
me ‘poison’.
On the path of the vitarag, you should not oppose or do
tarchhod (dismissing with contempt) towards anyone. A vitarag
will never oppose anyone, whether it be a thief, a villain, a
scoundrel or anyone else. If you tell someone, “You are in the
wrong business,” then he will feel the tarchhod. And when you
do that, you will not be able to see God within him. God tells
you to see the person through elemental vision (tattva drashti).
If you see him through the situational vision (avastha drashti),
you will only spoil things for yourself. What if you throw a stone