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and you do not see any material possession on him, he is a
parigrahi (with worldly attachment) if he has raag-dwesh
within. One becomes a vitarag when raag-dwesh leaves. ‘I am
Chandulal’ is parigraha (raag, attachment). Raag-dwesh verily is
acquisitiveness (parigraha), and non-possession (aparigraha) is
the awareness ‘I am pure Soul’.
After you attain this Gnan, there is no raag or dwesh even
when you fight with each other that in itself is a wonder! On the
other hand, a person who does not have this Gnan has raag-
dwesh even when he does not argue or fight. Fighting does not
create raag-dwesh, but the link (tanto) within that continues, is
the raag-dwesh.
Questioner : What is tanto (lingering effects, link),
Dada?
Dadashri : It is the connection (tant). If you fight with
your wife at night and in the morning when she serves you
breakfast, she bangs your teacup on the table; you will
immediately realize that there is still a connection to the
circumstances of the previous night. That is called tanto. The
one, whose tanto is gone, becomes vitarag. ‘We’ are taking the
responsibility and giving a guarantee of liberation for anyone
who does not harbor any links with anything.
There is raag-dwesh where there is ignorance, and there
is vitaragata (non-attachment) where there is Gnan.
Questioner : What does it mean when we keep
remembering something?
Dadashri : When you remember things, it is because of
your raag-dwesh towards it. If you did not keep remembering,
then you would forget whatever entanglements and problems
you created. Why is it that you don’t remember people you
meet casually, but you remember the close ones who have died?
There is a karmic account with them; because there is raag-