Aptavani-2
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Vyavahar : Worldly interactions
This world is not in the form of justice; it is in the form of
worldly interactions. The Lord has said not to seek justice
otherwise the intellect (buddhi) will become deluded and spoilt.
Look at the worldly interactions (vyavahar) but do not look for
justice in it. This means you should not be looking for justice in
vyavahar. Whatever the vyavahar, it is what it is. You have to
understand this much.
Let me explain to you what ‘we’ mean by, ‘whatever the
vyavahar, it is what it is.’ If your son is getting married and you
do not send gifts and sweets to your brother, would you have
expectations of receiving anything from him when his son gets
married? No, you would not, because that is the kind of
vyavahar (exchange; dealing) you had with him. If one brother
sends you sixteen ladus (Indian sweet balls) and the other sends
you only three, then your understanding should be, ‘I may not
remember it today, but I must have sent him only three ladus.
My vyavahar with him must have been the same and that is why
he is reciprocating with only three ladus.’ You should not look
for justice in vyavahar. Vyavahar is nothing but vyavahar. It is
what it is.
Once this fan was running at full speed and ‘we’ asked
someone to reduce the speed, not being aware that the speed
regulator was not working. When they informed ‘us’ that the fan
could not run any slower, ‘we’ immediately understood that the
fan’s vyavahar was as it is so why bother looking to change it?
Whatever vyavahar there is with children at home, accept
it as it is. Why go looking for justice there? If a woman’s