Aptavani-1
197
free even if you so desire. Whereas achetan (non-living) is vitarag
(absence of attachment-abhorrence), if you let it go, it will be
gone. It will be gone as soon as you let go of it. It all depends
upon you.
Sexuality is not to be invited. One’s attitude towards sex
should be like that of a vegetarian who is forced to eat meat,
as a last resort after several days of starvation. Then it is not
considered a crime of one’s own volition. Sex should be indulged
in as a last resort. The presence or absence of sexual indulgence
is not in anyone’s control. Does anyone willingly get arrested?
No. Sex that is forced upon you is not considered vishaya, but
thinking of or contemplating about sex, even though it has not
been acted upon, is vishaya. This is the law of the Lord. When
the body enjoys a sexual act, it is a discharge, but when the
mind enjoys it, a seed is sown, charged for the next life for
more sexual indulgence. When you become avasthit (absorbed
in a vishaya), vyavasthit is inevitable (result is inevitable). There
is endless torment of sexuality going on in this world. By wearing
beautiful clothes and looking attractive, if you become instrumental
in sowing the seed of lust in others, you become liable and will
have to repay. Even if you analyze sex through your intellect,
you will find it dirty. Wherever you slip (become the enjoyer),
that is vishaya.
A person, who prefers death to begging for sex, can win
this world. Such a unique quality indeed accounts for a very
honorable life.
Desire for sex is a natural thing but to continue having
desires for sex is detrimental and an obstacle in your spiritual
progress.
Span of life (longevity) depends on the number of
breaths; it becomes shorter as one consumes more breaths.
Anger, pride, attachment, greed, lust and deceit consume more