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or accumulation (grahan) results in renunciation (tyaag) and
renunciation will result in acquisition. Acquisition is the anti-
thesis of renunciation. Anything that is subject to anti-thesis or
duality is considered a vishaya.
What is the beginning of sexuality? It is to look at a
woman lustfully and become captivated. But does one gets lost
with lust by looking at every woman? If seeing one woman
incites lust and seeing another does not, then there is something
wrong. If looking at women adulterates men, then every woman
should have the same effect on men. If women were indeed the
root cause, then looking at every woman would incite lust in
men. But that is not the case; it is only certain atoms that attract
other atoms. As long as there is even just one atom of sexuality.
one cannot have syadvaad speech (speech that hurts no one).
Humans continually desire sex. Animals do not desire sex
all the time. If sex was the real culprit, then why does a man
have sexual feelings for his wife but not his mother? It is because
sex is not the issue (vishaya is not a vishaya). Illusion, ignorance
of the Self, is the culprit, that is vishaya.
I can show you the way to stop these vishayas. These
vishayas are like automatic cameras. Do not let images be
recorded by them. Take a photograph of only the pure Self
‘Shuddhatma’. In reality, there is no such thing as vishaya. Even
the strongest of brahmacharis (those who have vowed to be
and remain celibate) have become exhausted trying to understand
it. Anything that a person becomes engrossed in is a vishaya; he
becomes blind to what lies ahead of him and what is behind
him. That is called mohandha (blinded by infatuation, blinded by
lust, blinded by illusion).
The Lord says that which is not in control, is a vishaya.
It is egoism to say, “I am the enjoyer of sex”. If you were the
one enjoying the sexual act or thought, then you should be