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MISS MANAGEMENT carol levey | levey enterprises What to do if you’re dating a co-worker I am an onsite manager of a large apartment community. I spend so much of my time with my team and though I never envisioned dating any of my coworkers that is exactly what has happened. We determined that we would keep our relationship outside our work place. Therefore, we have told no one and so far it has worked. The downside of our decision is not knowing what anyone else thinks. So, I’m asking, what you do you think? I’m not surprised. My experience that has spread over years, geography and a variety of people tells me that your story is not unusual. However, your situation needs immediate attention. Eventually, your relationship will become public knowledge. Before this happens you need to know where you stand and develop a plan. What does your employee handbook outline about these circumstances? Depending upon how specific these directions you’ll want to be receive confidential guidance from your supervisor and/or H.R. department. Often your personal relationships can dictate career decisions. One of you might need to resign or ask for transfer to another work location. Don’t let someone else tell your story. If this personal relationship is going to endure and thrive it needs to be transparent to those that rely on your leadership, communication and results. Take charge while it is your choice to come forward before being found out. The choice is yours but realistically it is a choice of sooner, not later. APTBOOK-COLO.COM THE INDUSTRY LEADER Contact: Nataile K. Duke-Hynes, Regional Publisher • [email protected] • 303-371-8406 www.aamdhq.org JANUARY 2015 • TRENDS | 13