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Anger
reason is clearly visible when one looks at his aim behind
his anger.
Even anger has been divided. It is a different anger when
you get angry with your son when he is not paying attention to
the business. God has said that when a father gets angry with
his son for stealing money and other misd eeds, the father will
bind punya.
THE WAY MUSLIMS DEAL WITH ANGER
Questioner : We take out our anger on the wife when
we cannot get angry with the secretary or the nurses at the
hospital. She gets the worst part of it.
Dadashri : I tell people in satsang that when some men
are reprimanded by their superiors, they vent their anger on
their wives instead. So then I rebuke them and ask them why
they are taking it out on their poor wives. I ask them why they
do not fight with the person that scolds them instead of fighting
with their wives.
A Muslim friend of mine invited me to his home, so one
day I went with him. He only had two rooms in his house. I
asked him how he managed to live in such a confined space. I
asked him if his wife ever bothered him. He said that sometimes
his wife would get angry but he would not. If they both were
to get angry at each other, how would they be able to sleep in
the same room? And furthermore, he would not get even a
decent cup of tea in the morning. He told me that he was happy
to be with his wife, so how could he get angry with her. And
when she got angry with him, he would pacify her by sweet-
talking her. He said that he would fight outside the home, but
never in the home.
But our men (Hindus) on the other hand, would come
home after receiving a mental thrashing outside and pass it on
their wives.