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"Just remember: the
more you focus on
others, the more
irresistible you’ll be."
person they’re having lunch with—it’s
all for naught if that person witnesses
them behaving badly toward someone
else. Irresistible people treat everyone
with respect because they believe
they’re no better than anyone else.
THEY HAVE INTEGRITY
People with high integrity are irresistible
because they walk their talk, plain and
simple. Integrity is a simple concept but a
difficult thing to practice. To demonstrate
integrity every day, irresistible people
follow through, they avoid talking
bad about other people, and they do
the right thing, even when it hurts.
THEY DON’T TRY TOO HARD
Irresistible people don’t dominate
the conversation with stories about
how smart and successful they are.
It’s not that they’re resisting the urge
to brag. The thought doesn’t even
occur to them because they know
how unlikeable people are who try
too hard to get others to like them.
THEY SMILE
People naturally (and unconsciously)
mirror the body language of the person
they’re talking to. If you want people to
find you irresistible, smile at them during
conversations and they will unconsciously
return the favor and feel good as a result.
THEY MAKE AN EFFORT TO
LOOK THEIR BEST (JUST NOT
TOO MUCH OF AN EFFORT)
There’s a massive difference between
being presentable and being vain.
Irresistible people understand that making
an effort to look your best is comparable
to cleaning your house before company
comes—it’s a sign of respect for others.
But once they’ve made themselves
presentable, they stop thinking about it.
THEY RECOGNIZE THE DIFFERENCE
BETWEEN FACT AND OPINION
Irresistible people handle controversial
topics and touchy subjects with grace
and poise. They don’t shrink from
sharing their opinions, but they make
it clear that they’re opinions, not facts.
Whether discussing global warming,
politics, vaccine schedules, or GMO
foods, irresistible people recognize that
many people who are just as intelligent
as they are see things differently.
ABOUT
DR. TRAVIS
BRADBERRY
DR. TRAVIS BRADBERRY is the award-
winning co-author of the #1 best selling
book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and
the co-founder of TalentSmart ® --a
consultancy that serves more than 75% of
Fortune 500 companies and is the world's
leading provider of emotional intelligence
tests and training.
Dr. Bradberry is a world-renowned
expert in emotional intelligence who
speaks regularly in corporate and public
settings. Example engagements include
Intel, Coca-Cola, Microsoft, Wells Fargo,
Boston Scientific, NY Life, Fortune Brands,
Salesforce.com,
Fortune
Magazine
Growth Summit, The Conference Board:
Learning from Legends, and Excellence in
Government.
BRINGING IT ALL TOGETHER
Irresistible people did not have fairy
godmothers hovering over their cribs.
They’ve simply perfected certain
appealing qualities and habits that
anyone can adopt as their own.
They think about other people more
than they think about themselves, and
they make other people feel liked,
respected, understood, and seen. Just
remember: the more you focus on
others, the more irresistible you’ll be.
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