Akram Youth Obstacles, Do they hold you back or Spur you on ? | Page 12

Gnani

with

Youth

Questioner : I tend to lose my cool very
often and get angry on people. What
should I do to correct this?
Pujyashri : Try to find the root cause as to
what makes you angry. Just as that
gentleman mentioned that he gets angry
when he is cornered. Likewise, you too try
to find the reason behind losing your cool.
As soon as you resolve those causes, you
won't lose your temper. Do you get angry
or it happens?
Questioner : It happens.
Pujyashri : Ok...so it happens. Now let's
try to find the reasons working behind it.
Do you get angry if somebody does not
allow you to play?
Questioner :Yes
Pujyashri : Do you also get angry when
although you have studied for hours, you
are asked to study for some more time?
Questioner : Ya.
Pujyashri : Also, if you are hungry and you
aren't allowed to eat and are asked to
wait for some time. Then too you might
lose your cool, right?
Questioner : I end up quarrelling with my
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family and friends even when I don't
intend to.
Pujyashri : It happens. When somebody
says something about us, our ego gets
affected and that makes us feel angry.
Questioner : But I don't even feel guilty,
nor do I repent over my actions.
Pujyashri : You don't repent, but do you
think, it is worthwhile to get angry ?
Questioner : wipe it out.
Pujyashri : Suppose some food is spilled
over the floor, what would you do? Play
in that puddle or wipe it out?
Questioner : No.
Pujyashri : What would you do?
Wouldn't you clean up the mess? What
do we do if we spill some tea or 'dal' on
our clothes? Is it right to move around in
that dirty state? Likewise, anger is just
like dirt. It needs to be cleaned. Do you
get the point? So we should repent over
it. Do we like it if we are scolded? If
somebody gets angry on you and says
what a fool you are! You don't even
know how to hold the mike, then
wouldn't you get angry on that person?