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7 STEPS TO CLOSURE
By Corina Dondas/love.allwomenstalk.com
7 Very useful tips on how to get closure from a relationship ...
I’m sure a lot of you would like to know how to get closure from a relationship, especially since so many
people have experienced that horrible pain caused by a bad breakup that occurred when you least expect it.
That's an unfortunate event that leaves some pretty nasty scars on your emotional well-being. Sometimes, love fades and there’s nothing you can do to change that. There’s no point in wondering obsessively
about what happened, what you did wrong or what you could have done to prevent that, because most of the
time it’s nobody’s fault, and these things just happen. Learn how to get closure from a relationship, so you’ll be
able to move on and put the past behind you.
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HAVE A SYMBOLIC CEREMONY
This is one of the most used therapeutic techniques when it comes to dealing
with loss. It’s a very helpful technique
that offers spectacular results. This process will allow you to say good-bye to
the relationship that didn’t work out and you’ll be able
to get some closure. You could gather some things that
remind you of your former love and burn them, or you
could simply donate them to charity. You’ll be able to
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GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL
move on and focus on your future instead of being
The most important piece of advice I
stuck in the past.
will go away, since time heals everything. Just keep
that in mind and don’t beat yourself up if you still
haven’t managed to get past your former relationship,
even if you broke up with your partner quite some
time ago.
don’t forget about yourself! Always
remind yourself how wonderful you
are and how lucky you are for simply being you. Do
some of those things you love! Go to a spa and pamper yourself! Do things that you’ll enjoy, things that
will help you feel good about yourself! Focus on your
needs and fulfill them! Learn to love yourself more
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WRITE A LETTER
This is another very useful thing
you could do if you realize that
you’ve grieved for long enough
and that now it’s the perfect time to make some changes
in your life. Write a letter to your ex-partner, where
you’ll detail all your feelings, what you wish them to
know but never had the chance to actually tell them
and when you feel like you’ve written all you had to
say, simply burn it or shred it and let go of those
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through a pretty painful breakup,
your past.
from a relationship is to tell you to give
cover. That horrible pain that you are feeling right now
Even if you have recently gone
and focus on your future instead of obsessing over
can give you on how to get closure
yourself enough time to heal and re-
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DON’T FORGET ABOUT YOUR
SELF!
LEARN TO FORGIVE
words. This is a very good way to find closure emo-
Another important step to take in
tionally.
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APOLOGIZE
If you are the one responsible for
that breakup and you feel you still
can’t move on, even if you’ve managed to forgive yourself for you
mistakes, try to apologize, so you’ll
get you ex-partner’s forgiveness as
well. You will also help them get some closure and
you’ll finally be able to leave your past behind, so it
won’t haunt you anymore.
I know that sometimes getting over a breakup is easier said than done, but you should know that it’s not
order to get closure after a
impossible to get closure if you try hard enough.
bad breakup is, of course, learning to
How did you get past a relationship that caused you
forgive. Here, I’m talking about for-
more pain than happiness? What other useful tips
giving your partner for what he or
she did and also about forgiving
yourself for what you didn’t do. You have something
to learn from everything you experience. If you indeed
made a mistake this time, make sure that won’t happen again in the future and accept the fact that you
are not perfect and neither is your former love. Forgiveness is the way to get over the pain, so you won’t
become a prisoner of your past.
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THE EMPTY CHAIR
on how to get closure from a relationship could you
This is another very simple but
give us? Please share your advice with us.
extremely efficient psychotherapeutic technique which is
often used with people who are
dealing with the loss of a close
person or with people who are
going through a bad breakup. You are supposed to sit
in front of an empty chair and imagine that in that
specific chair sits the person who is no longer in your
life. Then simply talk to that person and say the things
you didn’t have the guts or the chance to say. You will
feel more relieved and at peace with yourself and
you’ll start moving in a new direction, away from that
past that haunted you for too long.
GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL
LEARN TO FORGIVE
HAVE A SYMBOLIC CEREMONY
WRITE A LETTER
THE EMPTY CHAIR
DON’T FORGET ABOUT YOUR SELF!
APOLOGIZE