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Adjust Everywhere
Questioner: He would not.
Dadashri: The wife is his counterweight.
Conflicts Ultimately Come to an End
Questioner: I may forget the morning’s conflict by
the afternoon, but by the evening a new one arises.
Dadashri: ‘We’ know which force it is that drives
these conflicts (athadaman), which force is working when
she speaks obstinately. People argue and then adjust once
again, all that is such that it can be understood through
Gnan. Nonetheless, one should adjust in this world. This
is because every single thing has an end. And even if it
were to last for a long time, you are not helping it; you
are harming it more. You are harming yourself, and the
other person is also being harmed.
Otherwise Adjustment Through Prayer
Questioner: If I have put in effort to make the other
person understand, then is it the other person’s effort
whether to understand or not?
Dadashri: Your responsibility is simply to explain
it to him. Thereafter, if he still does not understand, then
there is no solution. Then all you need to say is, “Oh Dada
Bhagwan! Grant him right intellect!” You have to say at
least this much. You cannot leave him in limbo. This is
not baseless. This is Dada’s Science of adjustment. It is a
wondrous adjustment! And when you do not adjust, surely
you must taste the effect? This dis-adjustment is itself
foolishness. This is because he does not want to relinquish
his authority as a husband, and he wants to keep his
authoritative control. So, he will stay hungry his entire
life, and then one day he will end up with poison in his
plate! Just let things continue the way they are naturally!