6
Adjust Everywhere
Dadashri: Yes, go ahead and do that, but you should
adjust to her. This is because things are not in your control.
I know who has control over everything. So, do you have
any problems with adjusting here?
Questioner: No, not at all.
Dadashri: [To the wife] Do you have any problems
with that?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: So then, go ahead and settle the matter.
Adjust everywhere. Do you see a problem there?
Questioner: None at all.
Dadashri: If the husband is the first to say, “Today
make everything, onion fritters, a sweet dish, and a
vegetable curry.” Then, you [speaking to the wife] should
adjust to that. And if you were to say, “I want to sleep
early tonight,” then he should adjust to that. Even if he
had plans to visit a friend, he should cancel them and go
to sleep early. This is because, if you [speaking to the
husband] happen to get into trouble with your friend, then
you can see to it [later]. But here at home, do not get into
trouble. However, in order to maintain a good impression
with your friend, you create problems at home. That should
not be so. So, if she is the first to speak, then you should
adjust to that.
Questioner: But what if he has to go to a meeting
at eight o’clock and she says, “Go to sleep,” then what
should he do?
Dadashri: Do not imagine such things. The law of
nature is such that, ‘Where there is a will, there is a way.’
If you use your intent-based imagination (kalpana), then