Accelerate Thru Conflict Magazine Issue 1 | Page 6

7 LEADERSHIP COMMITMENTS THAT FORGE ELITE TEAMS MARK DIVINE W hat does it take for your team to commit to serve at an elite level? This is the question I learned to ask after meeting Mark Divine, retired Navy SEAL Commander, entrepreneur, and New York Times best-selling author of Unbeatable Mind in Anaheim at the October 2019 Scaling Up Summit. When speaking, Mark said this: Everyone must say to themselves, when facing conflict, “I must challenge the story I am telling myself.” Not only did Mark’s quote help supercharge the message in my book, I became one of his Unbeatable Mind Certified Coach students! I asked Mark what it takes to overcome the fear of engaging in productive conflict resolution by unpacking the wisdom from his new bestselling book, Staring Down the Wolf—7 Leadership Commitments That Forge Elite Teams. - Dr. Craig Overmyer, editor* 6 • ACCELER ATE THRU CONFLIC T I was a leader in the SEAL teams, and I found that the SEALs were very effective at building elite teams. I was effective as well. And when I left the SEAL teams in active duty and went into the business world as an entrepreneur, I realized that it wasn’t anywhere near as simple as the SEALs made it look to build an elite team! I struggled, time and again, through my multiple entrepreneurial ventures to do this until I finally figured it out. What I figured out is described in my book Staring Down the Wolf. Elite teams who are firing on all cylinders and accomplishing great things together are committed to seven key principles: Courage, Trust, Respect, Growth, Excellence, Resiliency, and Alignment. All of these are present in an elite team, deeply committed to forge the character worthy of uncommon success. What ensues from these practices? It is about the great authenticity and humility of the leader, not about the ego of the leader. Then the team responds in kind! The team feels the sense that “We’re in this together, rowing in the same direction, and our leader truly cares about us.” The book is called Staring Down the Wolf for a reason. You’ve got to stare down the fear wolf to get to the courage role. This is a metaphor that the Native Americans would use to help their young leaders understand that fear is a debilitating factor. The fear wolf resides in the head, and the courage wolf resides in the heart. And the wolf that you feed the most is the one that’s going to dominate your behavior. Yet in our society, we’re not taught to connect to our heart. We get stuck in our head thinking that leadership is all about strategy and tactics. But that’s where the fear wolf lies!