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BECAUSE PEOPLE STILL HEAR WHAT YOU’RE NOT SAYING:
STEPS TO STOP
SUGARCOATING &
SPEAK YOUR TRUTH
T
he truth shall set you free! Clean + simple.
Nothing else liberates us, frees up stuck energy,
lightens our load as much as taking an honest
look at what’s happening, seeing things clearly
and speaking the truth with ease and grace.
Here are 5 simple steps to help you start
living and telling the truth.
1. NOTICE IN WHAT CIRCUMSTANCES
OR AROUND WHOM YOU TEND TO
WITHHOLD YOUR TRUTH OR SUGARCOAT.
Where do you find yourself ‘talking in circles’
or never getting to the ‘heart of the matter’?
Often this happens with colleagues, or other
people in our career that we may feel intimidated
by or we feel that they have ‘power over us’.
Begin to notice who triggers you to keep quiet or hesitate. Do
they remind you of a critical teacher or parent? A dominating
sibling? The girl in your grade school who always knew
the right answer before you? Or are you trying to protect
a lover, co-worker or spouse by not clearly stating your
needs, concerns or offering relevant constructive criticism?
Awareness is everything. Just noticing where we shut
ourselves down (or up) is the start of changing the pattern.
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2. GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION
TO TAKE YOUR TIME TO BUILD UP
YOUR COURAGE + GET CLEAR.
Speaking truth is a muscle we build. Sometimes, we need
a little extra nudge or the ‘inner cheerleader’ to encourage
us to fully express ourselves. Instead of beating yourself up
for not saying what you really wanted to on that phone call,
congratulate yourself for noticing the habit of avoidance
or sugarcoating. Then, make a vow to call the person back
or set an appropriate time to revisit the conversation.
Sometimes, it takes awhile to develop the clarity of what
we really want to say and how. It may be necessary to
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