ABUSE_MAGAZINE_ID_ Iowa Issue 2015 | Page 11

ABUSE MAGAZINE Photo Source: ecoterria.com • Emphasize what kids do right rather than wrong. Self-confidence is a child’s best protection against peer pressure. • Uncover what appeals to your child about smoking and talk about it honestly. • Encourage kids to walk away from friends who don’t respect their reasons for not smoking. • Many times, kids aren’t able to appreciate how their current behaviors can affect their future health. So talk about the immediate downsides to smoking: less money to spend on other pursuits, shortness of breath, bad breath, yellow teeth, and smelly clothes. • Explain how much smoking governs the daily life of kids who start doing it. How do they afford the cigarettes? How do they have money to pay for other things they want? How does it affect their friendships? • Establish firm rules that exclude smoking and chewing tobacco from your house and explain why: Smokers smell bad, look bad, and feel bad, and it’s bad for everyone’s health. What to Watch For If you smell smoke on your child’s clothing, try not to overreact. Ask about it first — maybe he or she has been hanging around with friends who smoke or just tried one cigarette. Many kids do try a cigarette at one time or another but don’t go on to become regular smokers. Additional signs of tobacco use include: • coughing • throat irritation • hoarseness • bad breath • decreased athletic performance • greater susceptibility to colds • stained teeth and clothing (also signs of chewing tobacco use) • shortness of breath Getting Through to Kids Sometimes even the best foundation isn’t enough to stop kids from experimenting with tobacco. It may be tempting to get angry, but it’s more productive to focus on communicating with your child. Here are some tips that may help: • Resist lecturing or turning your advice into a sermon. • Stick to the smoking rules you’ve set up, and don’t let a child smoke at home just to keep the peace. • If you hear, “I can quit any time I want,” ask your child to show you by quitting cold turkey for a week. • Try not to nag. Ultimately, quitting is the smoker’s decision. • Help your son or daughter develop a quitting plan and offer information and resources, and reinforce the decision to quit with praise. • Stress the natural rewards that come with quitting: freedom from addiction, improved fitness, better athletic performance, and improved appearance. • Encourage a meeting with your doctor, who can be supportive and may have treatment plans. If You Smoke Kids are quick to observe any contradiction between what their parents say and what they do. Despite what you might think, most kids say that the adult whom they most want to be like when they grow up is a parent. “We are pr