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teen depression & suicide 5450 Wansford Way Ste.102 • Rockford, IL 815-636-4304 “We are proud to be a drug free workplace & proudly support our future leaders!” Photo source: parentingteens.about.com Here are some additional questions and some answers: 3. “Should I get help?” There’s nothing wrong with getting help. In fact, if you are hurting or distressed and you do get help, it really means you have the courage, strength and conviction to do something about it. It means that you are determined to control your life, and not let others do it for you. It means that you are committed to living your life the way that is right for you. 4. “What will people think if I get help?” While there may, indeed, be someone who chooses to be short-sighted enough to give you a hard time for getting help, think about the alternative. Would you rather continue on as you have been, feeling as bad as you have just because some goof throws some garbage at you about it? Or would you like to rid yourself of the bad feelings you have been experiencing? me a part of Want to beco squad, while an awesome community making your uth??? better for yo Join the Mayor’s Youth Advisory Council For more information: 815-987-5711 28 5. I have heard some things that concern me: • “Maybe I feel this way because I deserve to feel so bad.” As long as you do your best and strive to be better, you do not deserve to feel bad. Even if you make a mistake, it doesn’t mean you don’t deserve a second chance. • “If I have these kinds of problems, then I can’t work or be successful.” Having these kinds of problems in no way determines your abilities and potential. • “Having these kinds of problems means I am stupid and weak.” These kinds of issues, in no way, mean you are not smart or that you are weak. There | Illinois Spring/Summer 2013 | abusemagazine.org are thousands of very bright and very strong people who are dealing with these very same emotional issues. • “There is no recovering from these kinds of problems.” This is simply not true. The key is how bound and determined you are to work through your issues constructively and not cave into the pressure or tendency to give up or react in destructive ways. • “Someone mentioned I might need therapy. No Way! Therapy is a waste of time and I am not crazy.“ Therapy is simply two people communicating in such a way as to explore the deeper feelings of a person. Then, processing those feelings, and then exploring solutions and ways to change one’s life for the better. It can be very effective and it does not mean you’re crazy.. • “If I tell someone about how I am feeling, I will have to be put in the hospital or be on medications for the rest of my life?” Hospitalization is only a possibility if you either want it, or you are at risk of hurting yourself or someone else. Medications may be of help to you and you should not automatically refuse to consider them. Sometimes meds are used just for a short time. But even if it is recommended that you use them long-term, it is no different than people who take meds for heart problems or diabetes. Whatever you’re feeling, there is hope, and a brighter day ahead. And you can make it happen.