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TEEN DATING VIOLENCE “We are proud to be an abuse free workplace and provide our youth with the best wheels to travel down the ABUSE FREE ROAD!” 1201 S. Federal Ave. - Mason City, IA 641-422-1422 River City Auto Body We are proud to keep our youth headed in the right direction to remain abuse free! 641-423-3070 326 1st St. SW • Mason City, IA 22 3rd St. NW - Mason City, IA 641-423-7172 923 4th St. SW - Mason City, IA (641) 424-3661 “We are proud to be a drug free workplace and help our youth BLOOM into Abuse Free adults” Another group of experts holds that men generally perpetrate serious intimate partner violence against women. They contend that men in patriarchal societies use violence to exert and maintain power and control over women. These experts also maintain that “act” scales do not accurately reflect the nature of violence in intimate relationships because they do not consider the degree of injury inflicted, coercive and controlling behaviors, the fear induced, or the context in which the acts occurred. Studies using “act” scales, they contend, lack information on power and control and emphasize the more common and relatively minor forms of aggression rather than more severe, relatively rare forms of violence in dating and intimate partner relationships. Instead, supporters of this perspective use data on injuries and in-depth interviews with victims and perpetrators. We believe, however, that applying either of these adult perspectives to adolescents is problematic. Although both views of adult intimate partner violence can help inform our understanding of teen dating violence, it is important to consider how adolescent romantic relationships differ from adult romantic relationships in several key areas. How Teen Dating Violence Differs: Equal Power One difference between adolescent and adult relationships is the absence of elements traditionally associated with greater male power in adult relationships. Adolescent girls are not typically dependent on romantic partners for financial stability, and they are less likely to have children to provide for and protect. The study of seventh, ninth and 11th graders in Toledo, for example, found that CENTRAL LOCK & KEY INC. Est. 1961 BONDED | INSURED | CERTIFIED | PROFESSIONAL We are proud to be a drug free workplace and we encourage our youth to remain ABUSE Free. 117 Years Combined Experience “Kids, you have the tools to unlock an ABUSE Free future!” 20 641-424-3647 1400 South Taft Ave. - Mason City, IA ∗ 24 HOUR EMERGENCY SERVICE ∗ | Iowa Fall/Winter 2013-2014 | abusemagazine.org a majority of the boys and girls who were interviewed said they had a relatively “equal say” in their romantic relationships. In cases in which there was a power imbalance, they were more likely to say that the female had more power in the relationship. Overall, the study found that the boys perceived that they had less power in the relationship than the girls did. Interestingly, males involved in relationships in which one or both partners reported physical aggression had a perception of less power than males in relationships without physical aggression. Meanwhile, the girls reported no perceived difference in power regardless of whether their relationships included physical aggression. It is interesting to note that adults who perpetrate violence against family members often see themselves as powerless in their relationships. This dynamic has yet to be adequately explored among teen dating partners. Lack of Relationship Experience A second key factor that distinguishes violence in adult relationships from violence in adolescent relationships is the lack of experience teens have in negotiating romantic relationships. Inexperience in communicating and relating to a romantic partner may lead to the use of poor coping strategies, including verbal and physical aggression. A teen who has difficulty expressing himself or herself may turn to aggressive behaviors (sometimes in play) to show affection, frustration or jealousy. A recent study in which boys and girls participated in focus groups on dating found that physical aggression sometimes stemmed from an inability to communicate feelings and a lack of constructive ways to deal with frustration. As adolescents develop into young adults, they become more realistic and less idealistic about romantic relationships. They have a greater capacity for closeness and intimacy. Holding idealistic beliefs about romantic relationships can lead to disillusionment and ineffective coping mechanisms when conflict emerges. It also seems reasonable to expect that physical aggression may be more common when adolescents have not fully developed their capacity for intimacy, including their ability to communicate. Source: Source: National Institute Of Justice