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On the Lighter Side  by Rajan Govinden How to understand Women You work on logic, she works on emotion. This is not to say that women are illogical or don’t use logic in every day situations – often their thoughts and ideas are better articulated than their male counterparts. The point I’m trying to make here is We have all met women who seem to be more complicated than Chinese algebra. At aBrMove we’re all about helping the guys. But sometimes advice from one dude to another can only go so far. It doesn’t matter what you say, it matters how she feels. A woman’s honesty to herself is unparalleled, because her self-esteem is rooted where it should be, in herself. You can call her beautiful or sexy or gorgeous every single day, but if she doesn’t feel it, it won’t get through to her. You need to make her feel all of these things, and more. In fact, what you Women are meant to be loved, not understood. don’t say usually matters more than what you do say. As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. that a woman’s emotions will influence her actions more than a man’s would for him. As men, society teaches us to keep our feelings hidden, so we don’t acknowledge them as much, and therefore don’t act on them as women do. It has always been seen as a negative for a man to be in touch with his ‘feminine side,’ but when people say this, they’re typically referring to someone who is more in touch with his own emotions. Women will naturally gravitate closer to men like this, because they feel they will be better understood. Hint: Women, this also means if you want your man to know how you feel about something, you need to tell him. But, I do think that as men, we over- He may not be able to read it on his complicate women because we expect own. them to be just like us. It’s natural for anyone to project their own qualities onto others and become confused when they don’t fit the mould, but once we step outside of ourselves and see people as they are, and not as we are, our vision becomes clearer. 64 • logistics in action • october 2014