Is it because someone close to you keeps reminding you‘ to’ feel bad about what you did?
Why do you think you spend now thinking about something you can’ t change and that makes you feel bad? Do you think that something you can’ t change and makes you feel bad will help you in ANY way now?
Of course not! How can it help you other than guidance to not do it again? Well that last lesson can be learnt by brief glimpses into the past when they are needed for guidance to prevent a repeat of the same mistakes again – that’ s one time that the past is very useful.
What’ s more, there is no need to feel bad, as those mistakes are an essential part of you; an essential part of your make up. They are the experiences that helped get you to the place you are at right now and you can’ t change them! Those mistakes were an essential part of the lives and experiences of all the people they touched … Those mistakes helped you all in some way, to find out how then you would simply need to think about it.
However … you can change how you feel about them, as that is a choice.
I have stacks of things in my life that if I chose to look at a certain way then I would regret, but do I regret them? No, they are my life’ s experiences and without them I wouldn’ t be at this exact point, and this exact point is where I deserve and need to be. There are plenty of things I look at and think, if I had gone left instead of right then this would have happened. But we cannot know the outcome of the different way, as there are literally an infinite number of possibilities.
So what happened just is, and the way to release the need to spend your‘ now’ time dwelling on a fruitless and unproductive past, is to just accept what is. Your acceptance of it frees up some of your energy.
After all, if you spend 20 % of your mental energy dwelling on a past incident in your life which you cannot change, then that frees up 20 % more energy you have to help create your life now and your future. Except it is not; it is actually 25 % more energy if you‘ want’ to be smart.
So by accepting what is, you no longer need to‘ give’ away your energy( and don’ t kid yourself if you think it doesn’ t take much energy to think about that business or relationship failure – doing that sucks creative energy like a vacuum cleaner). You do not need to dwell on the past, and therefore you are now back in the present after all, the present is where everything happened and will happen anyway.
Acceptance is the key, as whatever you resist will persist. Whatever you prepare against will become your reality. Whatever you fear and worry about