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GIVING BACK BEING A GOOD BUDDY RIVER EDGE BOY WITH AUTISM HELPS KIDS WITH DISABILITIES I WRITTEN BY SARAH NOLAN PHOTOGRAPHY BY KEVIN WEXLER t started with a school assignment: What would you do if you had $100? For Jack DeSavino, 10 at the time, the answer was clear: Give back to kids who, like him, have autism. The budding philanthropist began his mission with the help of his mom, Kathy. Instead of gifts for an upcoming birthday, Jack asked for donations to Autism New Jersey. Two years later, motivated by the joy his service dog, Nardi, brought him, Jack asked party guests to donate money to pay for twin boys with autism to have their own service dog. This year, Jack, now 14, and his family threw a fundraising dance party to help support the expansion of an international organization called Best Buddies in New Jersey. The event was held at Glow in Waldwick. Best Buddies, a nonprofit, is dedicated to creating one-to-one friendships, as well as employment and leadership opportunities for those with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Though it has several active chapters in New Jersey, it is unable to expand further until a state office is opened, says Vallye Adams, director of expansion and mission development for the organization. “It promotes inclusion and seeing people for their abilities, not their disabilities,” Adams says. Kathy DeSavino knows how important social connections are for people like her son. Since Jack was a toddler, she’s been intent on surrounding him with peers. He now has a core group of friends that look out for him, Kathy says. But as Jack gets older, and kids his age become more independent, Kathy says Best Buddies could fill in the gaps and make sure Jack and others like him SP-20 2018 EDITION SPECIAL PARENT BEST FRIENDS Jack DeSavino with his autism service dog, Nardi, in their River Edge home. have someone to connect with on a consistent basis. For Rich Migatz, a Paramus resident who is on the board of the New Jersey expansion team, the most important initiative offered by Best Buddies is its employment program for those with special needs. Eighty-four percent of adults with an intellectual or developmental disability are unemployed, according to the Best Buddies website. Adams says Best Buddies has successfully placed about 400 people through its program, which she says is career-oriented and tries to find jobs for participants that match their interests and abilities. Migatz has seen the benefits a positive work experience can have, for both the employer and employee. His 19-year-old son, who is autistic but high functioning, is studying culinary arts and takes a tremendous amount of pride in his work at a local pizzeria, his father says. In turn, he’s a productive and reliable employee – his employer “speaks very highly of him and his work ethic,” Migatz says. As for Jack, a talented athlete and drummer in the school band, he says he would like to follow in his grandfather’s footsteps and be a gym teacher. Jack’s aunt, Karyn Jacobs, was on his fundraising team along with her 17-year-old son, Steven. She says aside from helping those with disabilities, Best Buddies also shapes participants without disabilities into better people. “Kids learn science, math and English at school, but what about going into the world and being leaders?” she says. “It starts with accepting people for who they are.” Jacobs says her sister-in-law Kathy is the perfect person to lead a fundraising effort for Best Buddies, as she has tirelessly advocated to ensure Jack has the best life possible. “Not every person has a warrior for a mom, like Kathy,” Jacobs says. “Best Buddies can be that for someone.” ●