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RAISING AWARENESS MENTAL HEALTH EXPERTS URGE CAUTION FOR TEENS WATCHING 13 REASONS WHY WRITTEN BY HANNAN ADELY T his spring, teenagers were binge-watching, talking and tweeting about the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why, which revolves around a student who kills herself and leaves behind audio recordings for people she believes are to blame in some way. With the show on teens’ minds, mental health profes- sionals are urging parents and educators to take the opportunity to talk to young people about suicide pre- vention and how to get help if they or a friend are struggling. Mental health experts fear the show could glorify teen suicide for vul- nerable youth, especially for those watching without guidance from adults. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for people aged 10 to 24, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. 13 Reasons Why, based on a novel of the same name, tells the story of Hannah Baker’s suicide through the audio tapes she leaves behind and deals with issues of bullying, drug use, sexual assault and rape. The National Association of School Psychologists, in guidance it released to educators and families in how to talk about the topic, recommends that young people with suicidal thoughts shouldn’t watch it, while other teens who do shouldn’t watch it in a vacuum. “While many youth are resilient and capable of dif- ferentiating between a TV drama and real life, engaging in thoughtful conversations with them about the show is vital,” writes the National Association of School P sychologists. “Doing so presents an opportunity to help them process the issues addressed, consider the consequences of certain choices, and reinforce the message that suicide is not a solution to problems and that help is available.” The show, released in full on March 31, is already the most tweeted-about show in 2017, according to Variety. Paramus Superintendent of Schools Michele Robinson says the Netflix series is on her radar and she plans to address the issue with other colleagues and professionals in the district. “The best thing you can do is to have an open dialogue with the young people who are watching this, and especially include the parents,” says Robinson, calling the conversation a partnership with students, faculty and parents. “It’s a conversation we are going to have.” GUIDANCE FOR FAMILIES • Ask your child if they have heard or seen the series 13 Reasons Why. While we don’t recommend that they be encouraged to view the series, do tell them that if they watch it, you want to watch it with them. Discuss their thoughts. • If they exhibit any of the warning signs, don’t be afraid to ask if they have thought about suicide or if someone is hurting them. Raising the issue of suicide does not increase the risk or plant the idea. On the contrary, it creates the opportunity to offer help. • Ask your child if they think any of their friends or classmates exhibit warning signs. Talk with them about how to seek help for their friend or classmate. Guide them on how to respond when they see or hear any of the warning signs. • Listen to your children’s comments without judgment. Doing so requires that you fully concentrate, understand, respond, and then remember what is being said. Put your own agenda aside. • Get help from a school or community-based mental health professional if you are concerned for your child’s safety or the safety of one of their peers. • Suicide is never a solution. It is an irreversible choice regarding a temporary problem. There is help. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide or know someone who is, talk to a trusted adult, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255), (201) FAMILY | AUGUST 2017 19