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She does not need him around the clock. Men
relish the thrill of the chase, and a woman who can
create distance gives him the opportunity to step
forward and win her over once again. He never grows
tired of this interplay because hunting and acquiring
is part of his DNA. Allowing him the opportunity to
pursue and draw her in throughout their relationship
keeps him intrigued.
5
She is not afraid to challenge him. While real men
might love the dynamics of gender roles, they appreciate
a strong woman who brings fresh perspectives to her
life. A woman who is not afraid to grow herself and
share her opinions gives men added opportunities to
expand their own worldview.
6
She has confidence in herself. Men will gladly
put the woman they love on their trophy shelf, proudly
displayed for all to see. The woman who keeps his
heart is the one who accepts the pedestal he puts
her on, never requiring him to lift her up day after day
because her lack of self-worth compels her to step off
it. She knows she is worthy of the love and admiration
he bestows upon her and allows him the pleasure of
loving her, without requiring him to lift her esteem
to the level he feels appropriate.
7
She is an independent woman. True gentlemen feel
a yearning to be out in the world, conquering. They seek
a woman who will likewise balance her devotion with
an allegiance to her own needs, taking time for herself
and what makes her feel complete. They understand
that it’s with this sense of balance she fulfills herself,
creating within her the love and happiness she will
bring into the relationship. Fundamentally, the wisdom
of “happy wife, happy life” is woven into men’s DNA,
and they gain a sense of stability knowing she relies
on herself first for achieving satisfaction from life.
Photo by Nadezhda Lyra
Chantal Heide is a Human Relations expert. She has
a successful practice helping clients learn how to
find and keep a “magical” loving relationship, and
is a public speaker, workshop leader, private coach,
frequent media contributor, and published author of
“No More Assholes - 7 Steps to Saying Goodbye to
Guys and Finding the Real Man You’re Looking For”
and “After The First Kiss - Making Your First Year
Together Ridiculously Awesome“ You can find her at
www.canadasdatingcoach.com .
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1961 Magazine Fall 2016