Hello ladies! This is REALITY knocking at your door, wake up! Life requires risk, and there is no risk in sleeping in bed with a stranger( well there is, but that’ s another conversation.) There’ s no growth in this lifestyle of bedside dating. Nine times out of ten, you put this movie on, the lights get turned off, one of you all gets too close and the next thing you know, the movie is completely forgotten and you all are watching each other’ s tongues instead! I don’ t know about you all, but if I do anything remotely close to this, it’ ll be a Netflix and Build. Keep your personal, sacred place, sacred! You need not invite anyone in who has the possibility of disregarding you like a two-star movie, turning your living space into a movie theatre.
We need to push ourselves out of these bubbles we’ ve gotten in. Desire a partner that’ s going to grow you, take risks with you, be honest, sincere and considerate of you. Crave someone in your life whom you can build with- your dreams, ambition, mentality, health, business, family, etc. We have gotten too comfortable with,“ You do you, and I’ ll do me, and at the end of the day we can meet back up.” No ladies. You all should be there for each other throughout the day, helping each other with problems, picking each other’ s brains, getting to know one another’ s quirks and showing your humanity outside of the bedroom and living room.
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“ It makes them feel like they have to lower their standards so they won’ t get overlooked...”
Statisticbrain. com documented that single men to women is 86 to 100 in America. I get that makes a lot of women nervous. It makes them feel like they have to lower their standards or they’ ll get overlooked and passed by Love. That isn’ t at all true though, ladies. Make these men grateful that after a long search through hundreds of women, a good one like you wasn’ t taken, tainted, or turned to the other side( if you know what I mean) by the antics of their fellow brothers. Be the one that stands out and holds your ground, that holds off for something better. A man won’ t argue that you deserve better or do better if you’ re not showing him that you do. You set the standard ladies, make them rise to it. Men love a challenge! So challenge them to puff out their chests and impress you, woo you, surprise you! Challenge them to get out of their comfort zones, be vulnerable and actually build something with you. In the downtime when you all are having a break from putting so much work in, that infamous text may not seem so bad anymore. You can sit back, relax, Netflix and chill.
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